The things women say to men

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Guys, have you ever thought about the things women say to you? - and girls do you know what it means in the other end of the line? I have a very good friend in Kampala - we met more than 10 years ago. Your probably know who you are. Now and then he makes joyful comments about the women around him - and that they call everyone they talk to for sweet heart - and he wonders what these women will do the day that they meet someone they find rreally sweet. I have my own perspective on what women talk about. Here are four examples from my ears over the last 20 years. 


1998:

"Du er meget forsigtig"

Ordene faldt i min lejlighed i Skydebanegade på Vesterbro i København. Sagt af en kvinde, som jeg var venner med på det tidspunkt, dagen derpå. Det var efter, at vi flere gange havde delt min seng uden at have haft sex - eller noget der bare kom i nærheden. Og hun havde ret, det burde vi har haft, mange gange.


2003

"Thank you for being nice to me"

I drove her home in my car on Ggaba Road through Kansanga in Kampala, Uganda. We had been dating and going out for a couple of month. She was also my first girlfriend in Uganda. I recently broke up with her, but I do not remember my reasons. The word fell, when I turned into the road where she were staying.


2009

"It was nice"

In a hotel room in Polyview Hotel in Kisumu, Kenya. It was a gentle and beautiful woman's reply to something I said just after we had sex in a January afternoon. She was miss sweet and soft.


2015

"Thank you for your kindness"

I was in Arusha, Tanzania. Just before I was going to leave on the shuttle bus to Nairobi, I recieved these sweet words an sms from a woman in a provicial town further south in Tanzania, where I had been a few days earlier.


What does it all mean? There has been a lot of other words from women, but these are some of the more memorable and intimate. Read between the lines.

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