Circumstance
If you love an African woman and choose to have a relationship to her and even live with her, then you must understand, that everything between you and her always will be circumstances into eternity or death if you so wish.
"When one says the word 'Africa,' one generally abdicates all responsibility. The concept of wrongdoing is evacuated on principle. It is presupposed as well that nonsense is constitutive, from the beginning, of the word itself. In other words, to say 'Africa' always consists in constructing figures and legend - it matters little which ones - on top of an emptiness". (Achille Mbembe, in: Critique of Black Reason, Chapter 2, The Well of Fantasies, page 51-52